To Manage Stress or to Live Stress-Free?
The Illusion of Stress
The question is, why are we stuck with stress, so that we now have to get creative in ways of managing stress? Why does "Therapy Street" seem abuzz with "10 ways to manage stress", "Managing stress at work", and other such interesting concepts which seem to only take more of our time, therefore causing us to have to manage stress even more?
Think of a small tribe in a remote village in Africa.
People there live a fairly simple life. No TV! No Internet.
No big jobs soaked with corporate backstabbing and jealous ultra-competitiveness.
No money for alcohol or drugs. Not many personal cars (hence no need to whine about gas prices!
No glossy magazines telling them how they should look, and certainly, no Paris Hilton.
Do we really think these people go about being stressed and worrying how they can learn to manage stress?
Dr Wayne Dyer,
in his best-selling spiritual development book, The Power of Intention, proposes that "stress is a desire of the ego. If you tend to be constantly stressed, and are relentlessly seeking ways to managestress, Wayne Dyer's explanation of the actual cause of stress might intrigue you. Wayne Dyer says that;
"perhaps your ego-self feels more effective dealing and coping with stress because you feel you're actually doing something in the world. Perhaps it's habit, custom, or believing that this is the right way to be. Only you can analyze why. But the fact is that stress is familiar, so ego desires stress.
But there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it's your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can't package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking. When we think stressfully, we create reactions in the body, valuable messages or signals requesting our attention.
...........Here's a short list of stress-inducing thoughts that originate in your ego self:
- It's more important to be right than to be happy.
- Winning is the only thing. When you lose, you should be stressed.
- Your reputation is more important than your relationship with your Source.
- Success is measured in dollars and accumulations rather than in feeling happy and content.
- Being superior to others is more important than being kind to other.
~Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention
Perhaps what Wayne Dyer is proposing is that, seeking ways to manage stress is only the result of an ego gone berserk. That we can actually learn to be stress free in a world that tells us "stress is a part of life".
Perhaps he is saying ourgoal can become not
"how to manage stress",
but that we can eventually work it to a relatively stress-free life. Does the ego crave for stress to manage? Managing Stress has certainly become a term that seems synonymous to effective living.
So, are you already in that destructive zone of a stressful life? It behooves us of course to learn to manage stress to dig ourselves out of that hole. Living a stress free life is our choice to make.
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