How To Find Your Soulmate

This is a continuation of the "soulmate series". Here you'll find a step by step guide on how to find your soulmate.

Are you one of those people who believes in a predetermined soulmate, a specific person that you incarnated into this world to spend "rest of your life" with?

Up until a few decades ago, men and women found a partner in their teens to early twenties, married, had children and had grandchildren. And then they died.

In today's career driven, super medical-technology age, not only are people living longer, most are waiting until their 30s or even 40s before settling down. The last few decades have also visited upon us the age of conscious companionship relationships (as opposed to procreation-focused relationships).

I'm not going to pretend that I know the exact dynamics of how the universe works to bring two people together. What I do know though, is that we have the power to influence how our life path shapes. We do this everyday with our daily actions.

I'm also not here to tell you to change your mystical beliefs, especially if you're convinced they make sense. What I'm here to do is to challenge you to think about how your current beliefs are serving you.

Are you getting the results that you want in attracting love and intimacy into your life?

Prosperity teacher Randy Gage has a great blog on how our beliefs shape our vision which in turn determines our reality. Randy talks mostly about financial prosperity, but the same principles apply to love and intimacy.

A few common sense pointers
on how to find your soulmate

1. Dare to Dream - What kind of unconscious programming did you absorb when you were growing up? Have you ever noticed that every child is born with a sense of entitlement of worthiness?

Given enough time however, religion, your primary care takers, your siblings, the media, and your peers all contribute in shaping how you perceive your sense of worthiness.

Did these institutions and people carry very positive and empowering messages about your worthiness? Or did you internalize that you were unworthy?

2. Create a vision of the partner or relationship of your dream - There are differing schools of thought as to whether or not you should be specific or general you in visualizing your dream partner.

Actually though, it isn't so much about their surface or physical qualities, although there's nothing wrong with being specific with that too.

Chances are if your partner meets your general qualifications, you'll be blown away by how much more they become physically attractive to you.

As an example, my friend Jennifer (Caucasian), had always sworn that she didn't find black guys attractive. So of course, if she were creating her dream partner vision, chances are she'd exempt black guys.

Well, fast forward many years latter, Jennifer is happily engaged to a handsome black hottie. My advice is to not limit yourself to superficial qualities.

3. Look in the mirror - In self development circles there's a over-used cliche: You attract who you are. This is of course hard for a lot of people to swallow.

When we look at all the crazy ass partners we've coupled up with in the past, we can't help but reject the notion that they were our mirror selves. What? I'm not that fucked up!

However, the sooner you understand and embrace this simple truth, the sooner you can end your perpetual suffering of hooking up with abusive, physically or emotionally unavailable, or even mentally unstable partners.

What this means is that, if you've been out of luck with attracting incredible partners, the person you see in the mirror is the one you need to change.

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