The concept of 6 core needs, or six human needs as discussed by Tony Robbins seeks to explain the primary human needs that drive behavior.
In his breakthrough relationship program, "The Ultimate Relationship Program, Tony Robbins demonstrates, using real live participants how these needs fact into the way we have conducted ourselves in our relationships.
According to Tony Robbins, "we are all driven by the need to fulfill six humans needs. These 6 basic human needs are not just desires or wants, but profounds needs which serve as the basis for every choice we make".
The key is to recognize what need you are seeking to meet at any one time, because this determines how you go about every aspect of your life.
This requires conscious awareness of your emotions and reactions - something happens and you feel "bad" - but what really happened is that a certain need was threatened.
This awareness allow you to tweak your reactions so that you get back to figuring out another way to have your need met, rather than living in reaction and/or as a slave to your bad feelings.
This is the need for security, comfort and consistency.
This is need for variety, adventure and challenges.
The need to feel important, needed, wanted and worthy of love.
4. Love and Connection
The need for feeling connected with and loved by other human beings.
Although you will find many situations that present an opportunity to meet the need for love and connection simultaneously, a lot of times people are merely meeting this need through connection only.
The need for constant development emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
Giving beyond ourselves and giving to others.
This is one of the most watched TED talks, with close to 5 million views as of the updating of this article.
According to Robbins, when a person or thing meets any 3 needs of the above needs, it becomes addictive.
So the key is to figure out healthy situations (people, things and events) that meet our needs.
As an example, some people are addicted to food because it meets their needs for certainty, uncertainty and love/connection.
When you become aware that your addiction is a reaction to your needs being met in an unhealthy way, you can shift this to a more healthy avenue. For example, would developing a new exciting hobby such as say, salsa dancing still meet all 3 of these needs?
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